Welcome to our career column, Boss Advice.
Rebecca Klodinsky is a dual-business owner and HR manager. She is the founder of celebrity-loved swimwear brand IIXIISTand she knows a thing or two about being a boss.
Every Monday, Rebecca joins 9Honey exclusively to answer all your burning questions about the workplace. Wondering how to ask for a pay rise? Dealing with a toxic colleague at work and not sure what to do? If you have a question for Rebecca, email email@example.com.
‘But I didn’t resign?’
Hi Rebecca. I recently left a job, but not really out of want. I had requested to step down in my authority level as I recognized I was just not the right fit for the role they had promoted me to 18 months earlier.
The responsibilities of the role changed over that time and I was becoming unhappy even though my boss was telling me I was doing wonderfully.
I had given my boss a date that I wanted to be back in my old role which was still vacant. The date was three months from the time of the email. I was then told they do not wish to refill that position, so essentially there was no job for me. I explained that in that case, I will stay in the position I’m in. However, they then told me that they took my request as a “resignation” to which I reiterated that it was never a resignation, simply a request to step back into my old role.
I also spoke to Fair Work and they told me that they don’t recognize the words “stepping down”, only “resignation” or “termination” so they advised me to get a solicitor. I didn’t want to burn a bridge and I also didn’t have the money to hire one, so I left by the date I’d set and found a new job. But I still wonder if what my boss did was legally allowed. I felt really hurt and disappointed by the experience.
Hi Jenny – WOW. Firstly I am sorry to hear this happened to you! Secondly, I would simply just ask you to take a big breath and with as much grace as you can conjure, move on. The terms in which this unfolded are a little gray but sometimes these painful experiences are the biggest learning curves and lead you to an open door you hadn’t seen previously.
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I wouldn’t entertain getting a solicitor to rectify the situation because let’s be honest – would you really want to go back? Onwards and upwards. Next time, leave a paper trail – an email or a text message with your exact request/suggestion/intention, that way no-one can tell you you said something you didn’t! I’m sorry this happened to you but I believe everything happens for a reason and I know this will lead you somewhere even better! bc
My boss makes me cry
I recently moved interstate for my dream job, but the risk hasn’t exactly paid off. It’s only been a few months but one of my bosses seems to dislike me. I’ve noticed she’s a bit rude to all the women my age de ella (I’m about 10 years younger than her) and I do wonder if it’s insecurity that makes her act like this.
Everyone else is really nice but I sit right next to her and I’ve left work crying a couple of times because of things she has said to me. It’s really shocking me. I feel like I’m too new to say anything to anyone and my boss of her, who is her boss of her too, really likes her. I feel like I’ve made a huge mistake. What should I do? – Esther
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Hi Esther – I would talk to her, or your boss. Your lifespan at the company doesn’t denote your permission to ventilate your feelings or how other people are treating you or making you feel.
You should be treated as a valued member of staff, especially having moved interstate for this role, so please speak up! Don’t be scared to set some time aside to address this with the team otherwise, it will grow into a really negative space for you and potentially hinder your capacity to do a good job! Good luck! bc
Have you got a burning career question for Rebecca? E-mail firstname.lastname@example.org.
Please note: the information contained in this column is general in nature and should not be relied upon in place of appropriate legal or professional advice.
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